Men, pay attention!
While no one is ever completely ready go get into a relationship, it’s always best to be as prepared as possible. A relationship is always a learning process wherein the people involved grow and learn with each other as they go along. However, there are things that you can prepare for to make the experience relatively smooth and trouble-free.
It helps if both people going into the relationship are mature and experienced individuals who know what it takes to make a relationship work. These people know that relationships are difficult and they aren’t necessarily walks in the park.
So what do you do if you’re not as experienced as others? Don’t worry. We’ve highlighted some things for you to learn before you start getting serious with someone. Here are the 6 things that you need to develop before getting into a relationship:
1. Develop your own sense of self-awareness.
Before you start trying to find love, always try to have a developed sense of self-awareness. You always have to know when you’re being charismatic and cool; also when you’re being dorky and arrogant. You have to learn how to read a room and what people think of you. You have to note that how you see yourself is almost never going to be what other people will see you too. You have to be able to balance being yourself and being the person that people want you to be. Be more aware of your words, actions, and body language, and you’ll find it easier for people to get people to like you.
2. Analyze the mathematics involved in your hunt for love.
It may seem a little counter-intuitive to be using mathematics in your pursuit of love and passion. But don’t worry, you’re not being asked to do Calculus here. You just need to have a basic understanding of probability and statistics if you want to find success in your relationships. Play the field to your favor and you won’t be disappointed.
If you’re more of an artistic person, then you’re probably going to find someone more suited to your liking at art classes or museums. If you’re into athletics, start hitting the gym and scout for potential mates over there. You have to play the game to stay in the game.
3. Learn and grow from your shortcomings.
None of us are born perfect; nor will any of us reach perfection within our lifetimes. We’re all inherent screw-ups and that is okay. What is important is how we all learn to rebound from our failures. We should all be capable of learning from our shortcomings and growing from our faults. We all have our insecurities and our moments of mediocrity, but that’s okay.
We should just be humble and honest enough to recognize our own faults, and develop the willingness to learn from them. Once we do learn that valuable principle, then that means we are in a constant state of self-improvement during the course of our lives.
4. Start learning to be more patient.
Stop rushing yourself into anything. Don’t be so desperate in your pursuit of love and just play things cool. Let things take their natural course, and don’t get bogged down by society’s pressures and expectations. Love should come naturally and you don’t ever have to force things. Be calculated in your approach to love and don’t succumb to any impulsive urges. You don’t want to have any regrets in the end.